The Baby IS the Lesson

Just before I had Baby Y-Y, I was concerned about the transition to three children. I was worried about my older two feeling neglected (and possibly being neglected) especially with thoughts of home school floating through my brain.

I voiced my concerns to one of my aunts, and she said, "The Baby is the Lesson." It was just the thing I needed to hear. I have thought back to that simple statement many times.

Here are a few lessons we have learned in the past year because of having a baby in the house.
  • Tenderness. Because of the fragility of babies, everyone practices being gentle, showing affection through tender strokes.
  • Selflessness. Babies often get first priority. When Mom's nursing, others must wait. If the baby wants your toy, you let him have it, because he's just a baby.
  • Patience. You have to wait your turn for Mom's attention. Also, the baby may scream during a long car-ride, and you have to wait it out. Complaining doesn't make it go any faster.
  • Mothering/Fathering skills. How to deal with a baby. Older kids watch Mom as she bathes, changes, feeds baby, etc. often modeling the same behaviors with dolls (if they're young) or helping (if they're a little older). They also watch Mom as she sings, rocks, and caresses baby.
  • Heaven. Where babies come from. The Spirit that they bring into a home is a testament that there is a loving God who sends them into our homes.
  • Difficult tasks are worth doing. As we cheer on little Y who has recently learned to walk, I think about the older children. Cheering for his accomplishments, seeing his struggles, helping him through them, and knowing it is all worth it.
  • Love. Love for the new little one. Love for each other. Love is taught through serving others. Children also learn that a Mother's and Father's love are not lessened with another member of the family to share it with. The family love only grows to envelop another little being into the family whole.


  1. I really needed to hear this today! I'm not a homeschooling mom, but I just had my third child two weeks ago and was feeling like a heel because I can't do all the fun summertime things my five- and two-year-old want to do. Thanks for reminding me that this time while the baby is young is a special experience, too. The pool will be there next summer, but baby-as-a-newborn won't be!

  2. I really like this post. From Kristin--member of AMI of Utah Valley